As a psychologist, it took me three months after my wedding to understand why wedding planning can feel so emotionally exhausting.

Hint: it's not really about the wedding

Many of us have learned to take responsibility for other people's emotions, often without realising it. While this can come from a place of care and compassion, it can leave us feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and disconnected from our own needs. In this article, we explore why this pattern develops and how to build healthier emotional boundaries.

Many people assume they struggle because they “lack motivation.”

They tell themselves:

• “I just need more discipline.”

• “I should be trying harder.”

• “Why can everyone else cope?”

• “I know what I need to do, so why can’t I do it?”

But often, motivation is not actually the core issue.

But for many high-functioning adults, the deeper issue is not simply workload - it is the internal pressure that makes slowing down feel uncomfortable, unsafe or guilt-inducing in the first place.

You may appear capable externally.
You continue showing up to work, university, family responsibilities or daily life. Others may even describe you as organised, reliable or successful.

High-performing healthcare professionals in Nedlands often struggle in silence with stress, burnout, and perfectionism. Discover how evidence-based psychological support in a private, comfortable setting can help you reset and feel grounded again.

A warm, confidential space in Nedlands for doctors and medical professionals experiencing stress, burnout, or exhaustion. Learn why high achievers often struggle in silence and how evidence-based psychological support can help.

Recently, I chose a new niche to focus on in my practice - perfectionism and people pleasing.

This change came around for two reasons.

Mostly, because it resonates deeply with me and my own journey with mental health and anxiety. As a recovered people pleaser and perfectionist myself, I’m so familiar with these areas and how important it is to move away from them!